These are now large families a rarity. Sometimes people don’t think about the fact that, in addition to the husband and his parents, there are other relatives. And in the old days, when there were many children in the families, each of the new relatives received his "rank" and his duties in relation to the daughter-in-law who came to the clan.
Who is the husband's brother and wife
Young after the wedding finds not only her husband. Together with him, she receives his blood relatives. If the husband has a brother (s), then he will be her brother-in-law. His children are nephews. But such a rare word “yatrovka” was used to define the wife of her husband’s brother. What is it called now? Now the term "daughter-in-law" is increasingly being used. A woman is considered a daughter-in-law for all members of her husband’s family. But in relation to each other, the two daughters-in-law become yatrovki.
The origin of the word brotherhood
It is believed that this concept arose a very long time ago. It has Indo-European roots. Concepts similar in meaning and sound are found in Greek and Indian languages. The husband’s brother for wife in Lithuania is called dieveris. It sounds almost the same as in Russian. The Greeks have a husband's brother for his wife - daer. There are similarities too.
Russian folk traditions
While. when all the relatives lived in a big friendly family, certain traditions were developed in relations. If there were a lot of unpleasant sayings and sayings about the sisters-in-law, then they talked about the girls more carefully. Perhaps this is due to the tradition that a brother should marry the wife of a deceased relative. In this case, the husband’s brother for the wife became a potential spouse. He should be treated accordingly, trying to establish good relations “just in case”. If a woman became a widow, then not only her well-being, but also the well-being of her children depended directly on this relative.
Modern relationship
Now we are far from the traditions of the past. Nobody forces to take the wife of a deceased brother into his family. But some of the best features of the old tradition are still alive. So, it is customary to support the family of a deceased relative. In some cases, the husband’s brother becomes the only hope and support for the wife when misfortune comes. But you should not wait for trouble. It is necessary to take care that life does not breed loved ones in different directions. A lot in building a friendly family depends on the wives of the brothers. Young people raised by parents alone often compete with each other. This confrontation can reach incredible proportions (up to stupid, inexplicable quarrels). Here all the cards are in the hands of the young. Not just the spouse himself,
but also the husband’s brother for the wife will be an obedient “boy” if she manages to correctly place accents in the relationship. To calm the storm and direct the energy of loved ones in a positive direction is the task of the woman (or women if the brother is married).
A few tips from a wise mom
You should not get into the relationship of the husband and his relatives without an invitation. He built them for a very long time, in one fell swoop it is usually very difficult to solve problems. The best situation is when a husband’s brother for a wife becomes a true friend. But overdoing, achieving results, is not recommended. Excessive friendliness on the part of the young wife can be misinterpreted, then not far from scandals and jealousy.
