Qualities of a person’s character, including negative ones, determine his attitude to the outside world, and this process is two-way. Surrounding people will accurately copy the attitude of any personality towards them, of course, to the extent of their upbringing, and often without even realizing it. This phenomenon is best described by the quote “to everyone according to his affairs”, although there are rare lucky people who manage to balance on the verge of humor and rudeness. Nevertheless, society always seeks to affix a certain label to each person, for example, a comedian, “soul of a company”, an egoist, a parasite, a hypocrite, an egocentric, a cynic.
The meaning of the last word literally means the following: a person with a shameless, arrogant, rude and contemptuous attitude to generally accepted behavior and a position of conscious contempt for moral and behavioral norms. However, many people call themselves cynics, and this does not prevent them from finding a common language with others. Let's try to understand this situation.
Some believe that the cynic is an early-growing teenager, but this position is far from correct. Naturally, the roots of cynicism as a state of mind are laid in the period of growing up, but in order for a young man or girl to become cynics, some kind of event must occur that will forever change character. In fact, youthful rudeness and rudeness is a kind of protective reaction of a teenager and often later completely obsolete.
Others believe that the cynic is a frustrated romantic, and such an opinion is also controversial. In fact, a romantic can easily turn into a cynic, but, again, this requires a strong emotional upheaval. But everyone should remember that it is not always a cynic - this is a former romantic, maybe this is an ordinary boor.
Another option, “the cynic is realist, ” is not even worth a discussion. If a person perceives reality in this way, then perhaps he should turn to a good psychologist. Therefore, substitution of cynicism for realism is possible only in the context of a joke, no more.
The most popular position: a cynic is a person with the right attitude to life, in everyday life such a quality of character is called “healthy cynicism”. And although such an opinion has the right to life, simply because it is in everyone’s language, it’s still a little different. A person with “healthy cynicism” is venomous, satirical and blunt, but he keeps within certain limits. Agree, it is one thing to tell a colleague who reported on marriage: “How many husbands do you plan to stay on?”; and another thing to throw after retirees: “Go to the cemetery, even though the bus will be freer.”
You can argue endlessly about cynicism and people who have this quality of character - anyway, everyone will remain in their own opinion. Personally, in my opinion, there are cynical people who should be avoided in order to avoid problem situations, and there are people who are vulnerable and have suffered mental trauma who simply wear a cynic mask. The latter category should be taken with understanding - they, like adolescents, seek to defend themselves from the aggression of the outside world.
