None of us love hypocrites. And at the same time, everyone considers himself a sincere and open person, who is surrounded exclusively by two-faced people. Why is that? We often ask this question. It seems that you know the person from and to, think that he is honest with you, tells you everything that he thinks, and, of course, never discusses you with others. But here is disappointment: and this "friend" proved to be a two-faced Janus. We feel insulted by the whole world and proudly declare that there are no more honest people left in the world. But why about others we are always ready to say that they are two-faced people, but about ourselves - no? It is necessary to approach this issue from the point of view of psychology.
The reverse side of the coin is the unconscious
Psychologists distinguish two layers of the psyche: consciousness and the unconscious. So, only those ideas about ourselves that we like and which we accept in ourselves reach the conscious part. But there are no perfect people.
Unwanted characteristics are ruthlessly suppressed and supplanted. But they remain in us and are rooted in our unconscious. Sometimes these ideas break into the conscious layer, forcing us to behave not in the most ideal way. This is how our “second mask” manifests itself, which we, of course, do not recognize and try to justify ourselves, to find numerous explanations for our behavior. So it turns out that two-faced people are all around, but not us. A person is so used to showing the world only his positive and approved qualities that he himself does not recognize his negative traits. Since childhood, many people have begun quite successfully using their duplicity in relations with others, which undoubtedly brings them great benefit (at work, in their personal lives). Then the question arises: "Is it really so bad to be duplicitous, if there are many pluses from this?"
Duplicity in our lives
As many quotes about two-faced people say, a person gets so used to his mask (which he reveals to the world) that it becomes his face. It is very easy to cross that line when a person forgets his true self, when he constantly adapts to the situation, like a chameleon, and begins to pretend to himself. Such two-faced people, in fact, are deeply unhappy, although to others and to themselves they demonstrate an excellent mood. The most vivid example of this can be seen in the work of S. Maugham "Theater".
The fact that this problem has gotten a bit of a nausea is evidenced by numerous statuses about duplicitous people constantly appearing on social networks. Modern society, thoroughly saturated with market relations, is extremely lacking in sincerity and directness. For example, you can read the following status: "We pretend to others for so long that in the end we begin to pretend to ourselves." True and false, hypocrisy and sincerity are too intertwined with each other, and one can not distinguish one from the other. You can mention another quote: "When you are in the room alone with yourself, I am afraid to open the door and not see anyone there." Duplicity, of course, allows you to get some benefit, but is it really worth the loss of self?
