With marriage, the life of every woman changes dramatically. In addition to new duties in relation to her spouse, she also acquires at the same time a host of new relatives, led by the most important of them - mother-in-law. This title is considered almost a household word in our country. Usually, the image of the husband’s mother, as well as the wife’s mother, immediately appears anecdotal, hypertrophic, grotesque, primitive. But who is the mother-in-law in the life of a young wife and how to get along with her in peace and harmony?
Contrary to popular belief about the innate hatred of potential daughters-in-law, modern mothers of young people, especially those living in large cities, are progressive women. And if earlier, when asked who the mother-in-law was, the imagination eagerly painted an old aunt with string bags, who constantly suspects her daughter-in-law that she cares little for her son, but now everything is fundamentally wrong. It is not uncommon for mothers of husbands who not only do not crawl into the personal lives of their children, but also with joy begin to equip their own soon after the wedding of their bloodthirsty: they say that the child grew up, is attached to good hands, you can think about yourself. Such mothers do not shy away from technological innovations, usually work actively, have an interesting vibrant life and can become for their daughter-in-law some kind of older friend, or, at worst, just a good friend with whom you can discuss on Skype a recipe for a new pie or a new film.
Secondly, any wife needs to remember that for your husband this woman is a mother, her mother-in-law is only for you, and only if you yourself put this about her. Many girls after a while begin to treat her like their second mother.
To answer the question "who is the mother-in-law" without negative coloring, adhere to the following rules:
- keep a distance in communication with her and, of course, her family. But keep the same distance with respect to your parents. Your husband and you - this is your "cell of society", other relatives should be at least a little, but in the distance, and even, so as not to provoke jealousy;
- Do not try to get friends right away. Attempts to seem better and friendlier than you are will not be beneficial - good relations do not develop quickly, but last long;
- Do not try to solve the problem by scandal. Even if the mother-in-law and the father-in-law got really squabbling, try to keep a calm tone in communication and avoid accusatory intonations in any tense situation;
- Give gifts more often. Trivia presented on simple but important occasions can melt the heart of even the iciest woman. And the most demanding mother will favor the attentive chosen one of her son, who knows how to please her with a pleasant surprise.
And the most important rule: remember who the mother-in-law is. This is the woman who made you the biggest gift - gave birth and raised your beloved person. For this alone she deserves deep respect and honor.
