Etiquette is a word of French origin, meaning a manner of behavior, the rules of courtesy, good education, courtesy, which must be observed in society, at work, at school, university, at a table and even on the street.
Etiquette rules are unwritten, binding, that is, it is a “default” behavior and respected by people as a standard that is not subject to discussion. A well-educated person must not only know and adhere to etiquette, but also understand their significance for life and society. Indeed, good manners are a reflection of a person’s inner world, an indicator of his intellectual level and moral principles. A cultural person has more opportunities for development, establishing contacts, creating good relationships with people around him and, therefore, to achieve his goals.
Courtesy of the Cradle
Politeness is always and everywhere appreciated very highly. In large cities and large cities, politeness turns into a rare and valuable gift that is not accessible to everyone. Rudeness and bad manners become the norm, and this does not surprise anyone. Therefore, it is very important to grow the seeds of etiquette in the heart of a child from an early age, along with the first word and deed. Very often, parents, not knowing how to raise a child, adopt the experience of their friends or the older generation. This is not entirely correct.
Each person is individual, including your child. He will not understand an authoritarian and demanding attitude towards himself. Adults need to have patience and endurance in order to instill courtesy and courtesy to their child. Never force or crush a child. Ask, be polite, and the child will gladly fulfill all your requests. When talking with him, repeat the magic words as often as possible - “thank you” and “please.” But the rules of courtesy for children are not limited to just these words. Gradually teach him to say hello, say goodbye, apologize. Encourage him to read, followed by a discussion of the actions of the heroes of the book. Explain how to behave with people, and how not. And most importantly - always and everywhere be polite yourself. After all, the child copies the behavior of his parents and, seeing an example of etiquette before his eyes, he will try to follow it.
School etiquette
Having received the basic concepts of good and evil, the child goes to the next level - school, where throughout the entire educational process he is taught the basic rules of etiquette.
As a second home, the school has the same good goals as its parents. However, the rules of courtesy at school should not consist only of moral lectures and instructive conversations.
For a deep and detailed mastery of all the canons of etiquette, teachers should conduct classes on the lessons of a culture of behavior and politeness, in the form of:
- seminars and trainings, which are conducted on the basis of the answer-question principle, various situations are discussed, behavioral lines are played, situations are modeled;
- games in which participants are divided into several groups and beat life situations related to etiquette.
Such original methods, as a rule, are effective and efficient, they help to reveal the level of politeness of each student, teach children mutual understanding, norms of behavior in a particular situation. Schoolchildren easily and imperceptibly learn the rules of courtesy, examples given by senior mentors, becoming moreover more open and sociable.
You need to greet correctly
Proper and skillful greeting is one of the immutable norms of etiquette. It is necessary to greet people with a friendly, friendly, open smile. The rules of courtesy when meeting people are as follows: try to look them directly in the eye, pronounce the words of greeting clearly and clearly, the tone of treatment should be soft and courteous. The greeting is usually accompanied by the words: “Hello” (address to friends and closest acquaintances), “Hello” (universal appeal), “Good morning (day, evening)” (depending on the time of day).
What should not be done
The rules of etiquette have their own “veto”, that is, prohibited actions that may expose you to be an ill-mannered person.
- You should not turn to a person with an exclamation "Hello!", "Hey you!"
- Seeing a friend, do not desperately make their way to him across the room, causing inconvenience to the rest of those present.
- When meeting friends in the theater, the restaurant should slightly nod to them as a sign of greeting, and not shout at the whole district.
- Having met a friend on the street, do not hold him for a long time, it is better to arrange a next meeting or a phone call.
- It is not recommended to clap a stranger on the shoulder, greeting him.
Who greets whom
Who should say hello first? The basic rules of courtesy in this case are as follows. The first to say hello:
- a man with a woman;
- subordinate with the boss:
- the youngest (by age, rank, position) with the eldest;
- who entered the room;
- going with standing.
In any case, the first people greet are polite and educated.
Conversion as Etiquette Formula
The rules of politeness also touched on the forms of people addressing each other. There are three forms of treatment:
- Official - used in a business setting, during negotiations, this is a kind of code for addressing strangers. It mainly applies to “You” with the addition of a name and patronymic or status.
- Unofficial - appeal to relatives, acquaintances and friends. A cordial and friendly "you" speaks of close relationships between people.
- Impersonal - is used in transport, on the street and is accompanied by the phrases: "Do not tell me how to get to …", "Stop there …".
There are no clear rules on how to switch from “you” to “you”, this is established by the interlocutors themselves, or is present in the form of an appeal from ill-bred people who are used to telling you indiscriminately.
The rules of table etiquette
The rules of table etiquette have existed for many years and centuries. They are the same for everyone and everyone, whether it is a builder or president.
The first and immutable rule - you can not place and put your elbows on the table. It is forbidden to slurp and talk with a mouth full, especially on a romantic date.
You should sit directly, without leaning on the table or chair of the guest sitting next to him. It is considered indecent to drum your fingers on the table, gesticulate frantically, toss up a napkin, appliances, take food from someone else's plate, and speak loudly.
The rules of politeness and etiquette that should be followed at the table also prohibit blowing on hot food, bending over the table, talking on the phone, singing, whistling, painting and powdering. The man pays attention to the woman sitting to his right: entertains her with conversations, puts snacks on her plate, pours drinks.
General rules of courtesy
In addition to generally accepted standards of etiquette regarding greeting, treatment, cultural rules
at the table, there is a general regulation of politeness, the observance of which speaks of you as a well-mannered person who follows his manners and behavior.
- Do not fuss, do everything calmly and measuredly.
- Try to speak quietly, clearly, clearly, without muttering, using foul language and swearing.
- It is not recommended to publicly itch, pick one’s nose and paint lips.
- Control emotions, be cool, clotting words in elegant forms and expressions.
- Do not laugh too loudly and after people passing by.
- Do not yawn with your mouth wide open.
- Keep promises.
- Apologize, say hello, use "thank you" and "please."
- Watch your appearance.
- Do not discuss people in their absence.
- Address strangers in a polite and helpful manner.
