Almost everyone heard nasty things in their address. Sometimes we find out about this quite by accident, since most often offensive names are said behind our backs, but there are those for whom it will not be difficult to say everything in person and at the same time make a sweet smile.
First, let's try to understand what motivates people to insult others …
6 reasons for filth
1. Bad manners or tactlessness. Such people consider this disadvantage their dignity. Without realizing it, they can blurt out offensive mischief even in the presence of older people. Do not take this to heart, it is unlikely they themselves understood the tactlessness of their words.
2. Envy. Moreover, it can manifest itself even to the smallest details. For example, your good mood, and it’s better to keep silent about material wealth and personal life.
3. Vampire people. Unfortunately, there are people who take pleasure and energy from what offensive names were told to someone else.
4. The pursuit of teachings. Such a desire arises among “couch psychologists” who consider themselves to be mentors. They give advice, but do not forget to humiliate or insult the feelings of the interlocutor a little.
5. Good intentions. Sometimes we have to hear the most offensive name-calling from loved ones. We understand that they love us, but in a fit of anger, not everyone can control their words.
6. Impunity. This reason for filth is more common on the Internet, where people feel safe and do not skimp on insults. But if in virtual life they can be added to the Black List, then in real life everything is much more complicated.
Where the roots come from
It’s no secret that the most cruel people are children, and we get the first offensive name-calling from the school bench. Sometimes the fantasy of classmates can go beyond the limits so much that the nickname or nickname becomes a stigma, after which people even forget the person’s real name. The fact is that children never think about the consequences of teasers. For them, the most important thing is to create fun and noise by humiliating other people.
The main reason for calling names is appearance. If a person has problem skin, they will call him pimple, vision problems - blind chicken, bespectacled, the desire for study - nerd. The most offensive names for boys relate to the honor of his mother. If the word “mother” appears in the insult, the child will tear and throw everything that surrounds him.
They tease everyone, but why do some people stop calling names and continue to mock others? The fact is that any normal person with special trepidation refers to his name, and any insulting name-calling regarding the saint himself causes a storm of emotions. This is exactly what teasers need. To prevent this from happening with your child, you need to explain to him that the best weapon is ignoring.
Words Leaving Wounds
The subject of abuse is so reverent that even after years it leaves an unpleasant aftertaste on the soul. And it was not for nothing that at first it was said about children. If adults can at least sometimes control their emotions, then children do not.
How often do teens fight? The key phrase is hidden in the question itself. Every day, young men from about 12 to 20 years old try to prove their authority through fights. Where does the brawl begin? Of course, the first thing sounds insulting name-calling for the guy, which will humiliate his feelings.
Teasers or nicknames are like masks that people slip in to put on. More often they are forced to accept such a “reward” in order to get into some influential company, or to protect their honor.
There are many offensive words for guys, but the most offensive when the word "gay" sounds at him. If in Europe there is a good attitude towards such people, then the Russian people have a negative attitude.
What annoys guys
Men are less emotional than girls. For example, for a girl, the phrase “You are a fool” sounds like the most terrible insult, followed by screams, tears, scandals and tantrums. With men, the situation is much simpler. He will not even turn his attention to this. But this does not mean that not a single phrase that flies from the female lips is capable of upsetting or angering him.
The following topics may become a ground for resentment:
- uncleanliness (stink);
- dissatisfaction with his "friend" (small dignity);
- insults about his hobbies.
How to deal with insults
As mentioned earlier, the best way to revenge is to ignore. From childhood, it is necessary to explain to the child that if he is called name-calling, you should not respond and pay attention to it. Teasers are interested in insulting those who resent and respond. The child should know that all the nicknames are chased and other words have nothing to do with him. The advice, although simple, is 100% valid. But in order for your child to use it correctly, instill in him a sense of self-esteem.
