Hundreds of pages, articles, books have been written about the dangers of eternal anxiety and the benefits of laughter. Nevertheless, we are still convinced that only a serious person can be successful. The one who walks in a classic suit is always neat, wears glasses, drives an expensive foreign car, is never late and doesn’t fool around. But is this really so? What is the harm of exceptional seriousness?
First of all, we will determine what we mean by this quality. A serious person does not neglect anything - neither important things, nor principles, nor trifles. He is sure that everything in life has a meaning, purpose and a certain value. He is confident that everything can be controlled, and accident can happen except in a natural disaster. He does not like to spend precious minutes on trifles. Time is money. A serious person is incredulous, he checks and controls not only himself, but also others. He rarely relaxes because he believes that he should always be ready. He usually has a high level of anxiety. But is a serious person happy? The problem is that he does not know how to stop and enjoy success. He is often demanding, and any result does not satisfy him, because "it was possible to do better." No, of course, a responsible attitude to life cannot be completely discounted.
However, for loved ones, a very serious person is most often a punishment. It combines pessimism, fatalism and the syndrome of hyperresponsibility. Therefore, such people are prone to various diseases, primarily the cardiovascular system, as well as the gastrointestinal tract.
How to help such people? They should learn to relax and rest. And to do this without guilt, without constant monitoring of the situation. All kinds of auto-training and psychological seminars help to learn how to relate to life with great confidence and optimism. A good role can also be played by laughter therapy. Of course, a serious young man aiming for a great future will find it stupid to waste time watching comedies or just entertainment.
But it is important to understand that you cannot take the whole burden of responsibility for yourself and others, for all the things that need to be done. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow for a while. A lot of strength and energy takes away from us something that actually does not depend on our will. A sense of humor in any situation is a better helper than hypertrophied responsibility. Even more: if the desire to succeed at all costs is too great, it can suppress all creative impulses, paralyze energy.
A person who is focused on the result forgets the process itself. He neglects simple worldly joys and pleasures. So, having reached the top of the mountain, with high probability he will not be able to enjoy this success. After all, all the energy was spent on achieving the goal. Following him may be devastation, which often becomes depressed. Otherwise, it is called burnout syndrome. It’s worth constantly reminding yourself that you can’t redo all things, don’t earn all the money, and only one life. And learn to experience pleasure.
