Love is a complicated thing. There are no repeating stories. After all, the main thing in this life is to find harmony, and for this at least you need to start a family. And not just a family, but one in which every day is like a holiday, where children love their parents, and parents idolize their children and each other. But such an idyll can be extremely difficult to achieve. And if my husband is a sailor and periodically goes on flights for 3-4 months, what should I do? Today we’ll talk about how the chosen ones of the sailors keep their promise to their husband in the registry office.
Should I marry a sailor?
Marriage is voluntary. People take this important step in their lives for many reasons: some because of great love, some to improve their financial situation, and there are those who just want children. Whatever the reason, there is no point in judging a woman. She has her own life, and only she can decide what to spend her on. Therefore, when a girl marries a sailor, she must be aware of what she is doing and what result she will get.
There is a good book by P. Uspensky, "The strange life of Ivan Osokin." It tells us that each of us knows in advance the result of each of our actions, and if any person is given the opportunity to live his life again, not only the end result will be the same, but even the path leading to it. It is not difficult to conclude from this: the wives of the sailors even before the wedding knew that they would be waiting for them further. Therefore, if a girl falls in love and understands that this is for life, she will not even have doubts about the correctness of her decision. But if doubts begin to visit, then the woman is not sure of her decision.
Of course, many friends will ask provocative questions before the wedding. For example: think it over, is it easy to be a sailor’s wife? It is not worth building illusions that a loved one will quit his job for a woman. Most often, he will seek balance and maneuver between these areas of life. So to answer the question "Should I marry a sailor?" it is possible so: "There are doubts - means, it is not necessary". If there is no doubt about the correctness of the decision, then this is your person.
How to mentally tune in parting?
Seeing a loved one on a flight, you do not need to water him with crocodile tears. This will not make it easier for him or you. It’s hard for a sailor: he leaves the city, family and children. If at this moment the wife votes that she will not survive the new separation, this will be hard labor for the man. You need to part with a smile, while saying that 3-4 months will fly by. The wives of sailors must learn this ritual.
If you really want to cry, then it is better to do it at night and talk about your grief with a pillow. After all, the line of behavior of the mother will be copied by her children. Imagine that the whole family will cry when parting. A sailor in the sea simply will not leave. Every person’s choice must be respected. It happens that a man simply does not see life without the sea, you just have to put up with it.
After escorting the husband to the sea, the wife should continue to maintain the moral mood of herself and the family. In calls and letters, of course, you can say / write that you miss, but don’t talk about it through every sentence. You need to learn how to live without a husband.
What do wives of seafarers do when their husbands are on a voyage? Most often they bring up children, and spend their free time on their hobbies or self-development. And also the main task is to preserve the fire in the family hearth so that it does not die out during the flight.
How to keep in touch?
The wives of sailors today have the opportunity to call their husbands even to the other end of the world. Thanks to Skype, WhatsApp and Viber, you don’t even have to pay for such negotiations.
Of course, the Internet is not everywhere. For example, at the North Pole it will be simply impossible to contact her husband. In this case, lovers use ordinary paper letters. It is clear that such messages can last for 2-3 months, but how nice it is to receive news from home. Many women, and even some sailors, put their photographs in envelopes. This nice tradition allows you to see the main events of the family, at least on paper. After all, sailors, by the will of fate, can miss such significant events as the birth of a wife, the first steps of a child, the entry of children to school or college.
In addition to photographs, some husbands working on the ship compose poems about the wives of sailors. This form of expression of love is available even to people who are not strong in poetry. The main thing for girls is attention and form. Of course, the content is also important, but still often it fades into the background. Women often put children's drawings in their letters.
Thus, they help their child not to forget about dad. This connection is important, because there are often cases when a sailor goes on a voyage for 4 months, and a small child manages to forget it during this time. The main task of the mother is not to remind the children of the dad as often as possible.
Change is always for the better
Young wives of sailors are often surprised that the beloved went on a flight with one person, and came with another. This happens all the time. Indeed, in 3-4 months, any person changes. But when these changes happen before your eyes, they are easy to accept. The real wife of a sailor will never blame her husband that he has changed. After all, any change is always for the better. The main task of a woman is to find these best changes and focus her attention on them.
A woman also changes during flights. Big changes in life come with the birth of a child. A woman gets used to the fact that the center of the universe is her child, and men often do not like it. They want their wife to devote every free minute to him during his arrival. Therefore, often sailors are simply jealous of their wife for a child. Of course, many women have enough time to spend it on her husband and child. It is these relationships that are harmonious. The family begins to recognize each other anew each time, because it is so interesting.
It must be remembered that the character of a person and his worldview is formed up to 25 years. After this age, the person will also change, but mostly slightly. He can change his tastes and preferences, but his character will remain the same. The wife should understand this, each time meeting her husband and finding some changes in him. We must not forget about the main qualities of a man, thanks to which he became her lover.
Magic months together
The wives of long-distance sailors are sometimes forced to wait for husbands for 9 months. But when men return home, then the happiest time comes. Each time after a long wait, young wives perceive the husband's return home as another honeymoon. All offenses, adversities and quarrels are forgotten. Only the brightest moments remain in memory. A woman and a man at first enjoy each other’s and children’s company if they have already appeared in the family. Such moments adore young talents. Dad is a magician to them. He returns home and brings with him not only gifts, but also family comfort.
Mom becomes happy, and everything around is painted only in bright colors. After the first honey weeks, the family is ready to meet friends and family. As if nothing had happened, sailors and their wives walk, go to restaurants and cinema, and sometimes even go on vacation to the islands. The main difference between families in which a woman has not seen her man for more than six months is that there are practically no quarrels here. There is no time to swear, and there are usually no reasons. After all, life usually destroys families, but here it is too short to have time to pull the blanket over itself.
How to raise children?
When a woman’s husband is a sailor, parenting falls on her shoulders. Here you don’t have to blame your father for the fact that he did poorly with his duties. In such families, dad is a magical person who permits everything. But mother is angry, she forbids, says to clean up toys and do homework.
Often a woman is unbearably difficult, even more difficult than single mothers. After all, single women know that they have no one to rely on, and the sailor’s wife has support, she’s just usually very far away.
How do children meet sailors? With pleasure. They are glad that finally, albeit for a brief period, but their family will become full. Children with age get used to the regime of daddy’s flights and look forward to their father on land.
The upbringing in the family is mainly carried out by grandparents. Moreover, the sons of the sailors, despite the eternal absence of the pope, also want to go on flights. Seeing the world, admiring unusually beautiful natural phenomena, meeting people of a different nationality - all these adventures seem to little boys a fairy tale. Moms try to dissuade their sons from such a risky profession, but boys, if they do not choose the career of sailors, then often embark on a military path. Girls raised in a family of sailors are usually used to idolizing men. They see how lovingly mom looks at dad. And this relationship the girls will then carry in their souls all their lives. They will look for a man who can cause open admiration.
Are there any betrayals?
When the husband is a sailor, the wife involuntarily wonders how he manages the voyages without her. Indeed, spiritual affinity is one thing, and physical is another. Of course, every girl hopes that her chosen one keeps her faithful and does not look after the local beauties during the ship’s stops in foreign countries.
Men on the ship have a rule according to which colleagues in the shop do not apply to other people's wives about cheating. Therefore, there is no point in asking the husband's colleagues about the truth. You just have to rely on your spouse's loyalty. Indeed, in some families, men manage to change, living with their wife in the same apartment and not even leaving on business trips. Fidelity is not a character trait, it is the same quality as mercy and friendliness, it must be developed.
They say that the wives of sailors cheat much more often than their husbands. This is false information, just to convict a wife of treason is much easier. Friendly neighbors and friends will always be found. But finding evidence against her husband will be very difficult. But after all, women who are not married to a sailor are cheating. Therefore, it is difficult to make statistics. You can simply say that loyalty is quite possible.
The most famous wives of sailors
There are lots of stories about how courageous women are. Today, girls work in the police, security, in investigative agencies, etc. But there are women who do not save the world, but they have the most difficult task - to wait for their husband from swimming. But not all flights are commercial. Some ships are sent to fight piracy. That's exactly what the story will be about.
Elena Antsiferova - the wife of the commander of the ship "Marshal Shaposhnikov." May 7, 2010 a woman will remember for a long time. It was on this day that her husband clashed with the pirates and freed the tanker. The work was dangerous, and the end of the match was unpredictable. The woman and her two daughters did not find a place for two days. They hoped for a successful ending to the operation, which eventually took place. Such stories happen often. The wives of the sailors even put a monument in Odessa. This bronze statue serves as a symbol of love and fidelity. Thanks to beloved women, men can perform even the most difficult operation.
Children of sailors
They say that love is tested by distance. Such inspections of the children of sailors are not once a year. And despite this, Dad remains the most beloved person on the whole planet. You need to take an example from him, because he is a man who has a great life experience.
We have already said that, growing up, the sons of sailors often choose a military career. If the family had a good, warm relationship, if the mother loved the father, then the son will be sure that he can always find a loving wife. Moreover, this confidence will be so strong that he will not be able to think that his lover will not want to go with him to the ends of the world.
A sailor is a revered and well-paid profession. Needless to say, the families of such people live in luxury. Children get used to this level of prosperity and their whole life they cannot lower this bar. On the one hand, this is good - it means that there will always be something to strive for, but on the other hand, people around can call such children who have already grown up as snobs.
