For those who want to talk more with the opposite sex, they came up with the concept of quick dates. They have become extremely popular due to the convenience of this format. According to reviews of Fastlife (fast dates), it is at such events that clients find a mate for a serious relationship, friends and just have a great time.
What it is
An evening of quick dates is arranged in restaurants, in clubs. They set up several tables, and at the entrance they give name tags. At the same time, the main goal of each visitor is to get acquainted with representatives of the opposite sex in turn, sitting down with them at one table. As a result, in just one evening, according to reviews of quick dates of men and women, you can get acquainted with 10 applicants. Then a choice is made with whom to continue acquaintance, and with whom - not. Researchers have found that the allotted time for “speed dating” is enough to form an impression of a potential partner. It is noteworthy that the first impression is considered to be the most faithful. For this reason, an attractive partner is quite possible to find during this time.
History of invention
Such a system was invented in 1998 by an American rabbi. He conceived it as a party for those who have little time, but who are in search of a partner. As soon as the first evening took place, they began to be held in Beverly Hills on a regular basis. Soon they became popular all over the world and reached Russia.
Where are they held?
Fastlife Dating Club is very popular in Moscow. Participants are divided into three age groups and are invited to the restaurant for events. Here are some places where fast dates take place:
- Chesterfield Hall "Karaoke". Art. m. "Arbat", st. Novy Arbat, d. 19, p. 1 (2nd floor).
- Tyler The Bar. Art. m. "Kitay-Gorod", st. Solyanka 1 \ 2, p. 1.
- Zolberg. Art. m. "Dobryninskaya", 1st Lyusinovsky lane, 3B.
System
There are many organizers of various events of this kind, but the same principles always lie at the heart of every evening. According to reviews of fast dates at Fastlife (Dating Club), everything happens easily and simply. Visitors signing up find themselves in a specific age group. A fee is paid, which is usually more for men and less for women.
As a rule, the cost is in the range of 700-1500 rubles. What do those who go on fast dates say? In the reviews, people described the simplicity of the procedure. You must arrive at the appointed time in the cafe. There will be an administrator at the entrance, he will talk about the rules of the event.
Usually girls sit at tables, and every 5 minutes men sit down to them. The movement takes place in a circle, and so all representatives of different sex manage to communicate with each other.
According to reviews of quick dates in St. Petersburg, the meeting lasts about two hours. A break is made, sometimes here visitors drink a glass of wine. At the same time, those who went on fast dates in Moscow wrote in reviews that loud music was playing at the event, which made it hard to hear each other. It is important to watch reviews in advance to avoid such phenomena. Also, the moment is clarified by the administrator before the event.
In reviews of quick dates in St. Petersburg, women wrote that they heard how neighboring couples communicated. And when the man at the next table frankly flirted with the woman, and when reseeding, he began to sore through his teeth, his neighbor could be offended.
Sometimes organizers offer non-standard dates. For example, reviews of quick dating of men in Moscow feature stories of how acquaintance took place in the form of a game in the Mafia. Similar events are known in the format of “peepers”: people just looked at each other.
Who walks
Many of those who read reviews of quick dates in Krasnodar or other cities of Russia have a question: who goes on fast dates? And ordinary people attend these events. At the same time, those who are already married hardly appear here. For the most part, visitors are looking for a serious relationship.
In reviews of fast dates in Fastlife, people indicate that the event takes place in a pleasant environment. For the most part, visitors are totally lonely people. There are also those who are immersed in their work, and sometimes people come here for entertainment.
About Feedback
Reviews about the fast date evening contain information that the participants receive feedback in a very humane way. So, each has a checklist, which notes the impression of each participant. They receive data about themselves either by mail or by other means.
In addition, contacts are sent to those with whom sympathy coincides. This way people can connect with each other.
If bored
Someone in reviews of quick dates noted that a large number of acquaintances in the short term can tire. But on the contrary, it charges someone with energy. It all depends on the person himself.
In reviews of quick dates in Moscow, participants wrote that it is very sad when it is clear in advance that the new person is definitely “not yours”. And he realizes it. And the couple is sitting, waiting for a signal to change a partner.
Also, reviews of quick dates in Moscow feature stories that sometimes all participants fall into the category of "not mine." But if a person treats this as a training, then it is more likely to charge energetically. In reviews of quick dates, there are cases when a person at this event found a business partner. Someone agreed on the supply of goods, meeting the right supplier right at this evening.
Fears
Someone gathering for dating, as indicated in the quick date reviews, may be afraid that they will laugh at him. But in reality no one laughs at anyone at such events. Dating of this kind is quite natural for any person. And the modern rhythms of life are such that a person can arrange his personal life literally “on the run”. And such events guarantee that a person will come across people who are looking for the same thing as him.
Advantages
Of course, such evenings have both advantages and disadvantages. The main advantage of such events is the fact that they do not require a lot of time. Only one evening is needed to get acquainted with 10 potential partners.
In addition, professional presenters usually accompany the evening. People come here who are guaranteed to seek a partner. Groups are assembled according to certain criteria. For example, there are various age categories, and people are collected on this basis. If the visitor does not like the interlocutor, this question is very easily resolved: after only a couple of minutes, he will already be seated at another table. The calm atmosphere in the evenings of this kind is conducive to communication. It is also a great way to effectively spend time pumping your communication skills.
disadvantages
Frequency of change of partners will resemble a conveyor. Everywhere a variety of people come across, and this also applies to express dating. For those who are not used to communication, it can become difficult psychologically. It will be necessary to restructure to communicate with different people.
Recommendations
The organizers themselves, as a rule, give their clients several recommendations. They often advise to remember that no one owes anything to anyone. It is advised to set a goal in advance on each mini date. It is important to enjoy the process directly, and not think about the result. An easy mood is needed, and it is much easier to cope with those who are easy on life. You will need clothes in which it will be comfortable and at the same time in which a person will look attractive.
Additional reviews
In fact, the main purpose of express dating is to exchange contacts between visitors. At the same time, many in their reviews note that it is hardly possible to consider and feel a person in such a short time, which is offered on express dates. The first impression can be deceiving, and there is a high risk of missing an interesting person and choosing the one who is not suitable.
If someone likes, most people have a desire to like in response. And sometimes not everyone can cope with emotions in a couple of minutes. For this reason, many people avoid fast dating parties.
Summing up the advantages and disadvantages of quick dates, many visitors note the fact that when a person initially goes to an event in order to get a result and does not think about the process, he will be disappointed. The result is for those who are most important to communicate, show themselves and see others who enjoy it.
Stages
To attend this event, you must sign up for it by buying an entrance ticket. This is done on the official website. As soon as a person arrives, you need to get your own badge. A number is applied to it. Thanks to this, it is much easier to give feedback; there is no confusion. Better to arrive on time.
Indoor tables are placed. Each one has either 2 or 4 people. On each there are, as a rule, separate tablets with questions. Fill them for evaluation and memory of the first impression of each person. 5-7 minutes are allocated for each acquaintance. Then they give a signal, and the partner moves to another table.
When the evening ends, the organizers take these completed tables, compare the results. With the detection of matches, they send everyone the appropriate messages. Thanks to this, people eventually communicate with each other. Often tablets are processed throughout the day. Thus, the results are clarified after a day.
Administrators of express dating usually offer all kinds of entertainment, contests. And in the end, people who have difficulty communicating at the dating stage get positive emotions from these entertainments. Administrators usually offer visitors food and drink. It is forbidden, as a rule, to come to an event while intoxicated or intoxicated.
Relevance
In the 21st century, new norms of dating are celebrated. At the moment, there are almost no prejudices that were prevalent earlier and related to dating sites, express dates. Someone said that many pretend not to be who they are, that no one is looking for real communication, that there are many boors and boors around such events.
The opinions of psychologists differ in most cases. Many say that on the Internet and with strangers, a person gives out his inner essence. This format allows you to reveal what a person hides from his circle of friends, fearing condemnation. Often it is on dating sites that people share their “shadow” fantasies. And there are the merits of quick dating. In addition, having met an unpleasant personality, it will not be difficult to get rid of this communication. While in the course of a traditional date, this can cause some difficulties.
Someone from psychologists says that most of the information a person communicates is non-verbal, which affects his perception by others radically. This is the advantage of a fast dating party over online services.
Nevertheless, such portals on the Internet and in real life have become an important part of modern Russians. Some people get to know each other only there. So, street dating has already become something outdated. At the moment, more and more pairs are created through many services. In cases where a person works for himself, when his circle of communication is limited, the Internet helps to expand it instantly.
For those who want to see once rather than hear a hundred times, speed dating is ideal. In this format, the human need is fully realized for the accelerated construction of personal life due to the lack of extra time. And non-verbal gestures are enough to quickly understand what a person is, whether he is suitable for further communication, attracts for real or not.
Organizer reviews
The organizers themselves in their reviews of express dating noted that they hold about 3 events each month. Men usually hesitate for a long time and are afraid to go on quick dates, and even after that, about 20% do not come. They are not too confident. For girls, prices were lower so that more would come.
In cases where people like each other, they can start exchanging phones right in the evening. But the organizers do not allow this. They provide people with their service, independently sending out results to all participants.
The organizers note that fast dates are most in demand among the age categories of about 30-35 years. At the same time, these categories are the most insecure, people of a younger age are more confident in themselves. As a rule, adult men do not try to compete with young children, come on dates of their age category.
Reviews of girls
As the girls wrote in their reviews, they initially could have been very worried about the fact that no one was trying to get to know them in various places, on the streets. And they feel they are missing out on an interesting experience. Often men are scared away by the inaccessible appearance of these girls. Filling this gap, girls come to dating parties.
In their reviews of the event for express dating, women noted that in the evenings they distributed alcoholic cocktails and juices. Quite often, it happens that the girls sit separately, and the men get in heaps to talk about football.
For the most part, talk is about work. When naming each man their profession, women noted how quickly men lost interest in hearing what their interlocutor was doing. There have been incidents at such events. One of the men was vehemently interested in whether the girl had appendicitis excised. Someone tried to joke, and then began to complain about their health problems. Often men speak incessantly.
Some reviews show that sometimes all interlocutors merge into a single group and discuss their own overweight, travel, sports news, diets and cars. This situation is disappointing. Names in this case are not remembered, as well as who specifically liked the most. About half the dates ended in failure.
Some women come just to have fun.
As a result, it turns out that express dating is ideal for those who do not have complexes and prejudices. This helps to find a partner for those who live in the rhythm of a big city. Indeed, in small towns, everyone knows each other anyway. The outcome, the process - it all depends directly on the person himself: what he is, how he will set himself up, how he will reveal the personality of the interlocutor on the contrary. Often the participants come the most ordinary, exhibitionists, people of strange appearance, groomed, do not come across here.
