A seething era erases the boundaries between male and female qualities. As a result, boys and girls lose their orientation on the path to personal growth and self-knowledge. In such circumstances, it is easy to confuse the good with the bad, especially since everyone sees both good and bad in their own way. Let's see what a real man should be like so that he does not lose himself and live a full life.
Determination
Having opened his eyes in the morning, a person should absolutely transparently present his plans for the day. Otherwise, his day will be completely useless, because when there are no clear tasks, the implementation of which is necessary, a riot of laziness begins. Owing to the instincts of self-preservation and energy conservation, our body always struggles with development and unnecessary actions, therefore development is impossible without a clear definition of goals. The day of a person who has not set a goal for himself is wasted. The same thing happens with life in general.
Arriving in a new country or city, a person uses the map. Having marked the desired place on it, he sets off. A simple map can open for him many interesting places. Some of them can radically change the perception of the world and make you reconsider the system of life values. But if there is no end point, the card turns into a simple sheet of paper.
Being a man means knowing exactly what you want and following your goal. When a man has determined a goal for himself and wants to achieve it soon, he performs a more expedient action. Actions that are not aimed at achieving the desired result, he is not interested. Therefore, in the life of a real man there is no place for meaningless burning of precious time.
Responsibility
The main sign of psychological maturity is responsibility. To be a man, you need to develop a sense of responsibility every day. A real man will never blame circumstances and the external environment for his failures. He is responsible for his life and understands that every action, as well as inaction, will have consequences. A “cool” man can cause only short-term interest in society, but in reality everything rests on reliable ones.
A man’s behavior model should be proactive, not reactive. In a problem situation, a real man does not adapt to the circumstances, but seeks more favorable ones or creates them himself. A reactive model of behavior is the lot of outsiders. She is destructive to the masculine and never brings happiness. That is why it is better to be a man with projective behavior.
Confidence
Self-confidence is what arises on the basis of life experience, skills of skills. It is important not to confuse confidence with self-confidence. Self-confidence is a manifestation of weakness and a desire to make up for a lack of development.
Every day a man must overcome laziness, indecision and his weaknesses. Overcoming himself, he becomes stronger and more confident. The evil influence of others should not affect him. A man should clearly know what he likes and what doesn't, and not be afraid to tell the whole world about it.
Positive traits
To be a man, you need to fight with negative qualities. And positive qualities, such as diligence, honesty, determination, responsibility, goodwill, generosity, fidelity, need to be developed daily.
In order to develop positive qualities in oneself, it is necessary to constantly analyze oneself and one's actions, and exclude everything that impedes development. You need to do this from a very young age, considering personal growth as a major investment in the future. Burning the life that most young people are involved in leads to extremely negative consequences.
Positive habits
Acts define habits. Habits, in turn, shape the character of a person, and character determines fate. Therefore, it is important that in the arsenal of habits there is something that promotes development and strengthens self-confidence, and does not lead to the destruction of oneself.
It is important to be able to find a negative habit in yourself and eradicate it immediately. The faster a person gets rid of a bad habit, the easier it is given to him. Stretching this process and deceiving yourself with the word “gradually”, you can only aggravate your situation. The Grotto group in one of its songs says: “You either rushed towards the unknown or you couldn’t.” The result should be unambiguous. Getting rid of a bad habit gradually is not the result. After all, this means that you are subconsciously not yet ready to take this step. Realizing 100% harm from your habit, you can get rid of it once and for all. This is a purely psychological moment.
But positive habits need to be regularly cultivated in oneself. A person who has the proper arsenal of positive habits automatically relieves himself of the need to choose in a particular situation. For example, someone who is used to jogging in the morning will not, having opened his eyes in the morning, think whether to watch the series or still lie around.
Radislav Gandapas says that the first thing you need to know about habits is that there is no such thing as a smoking habit and a lack of a smoking habit. There is a habit of smoking, but there is a habit of not smoking. Therefore, by cultivating a positive habit in oneself, one can get rid of a negative one.
Will
Will is a kind of internal energy that allows a person to overcome himself. Without a will, a man’s life is simply impossible. To be a man, you need to constantly educate your will and expand its horizons. A simple but very effective way of developing the will is tempering. Subcooling is one of the destructive processes for the human body. Therefore, the psyche tries to avoid cooling in all possible ways. Going over your own body, you can effectively develop the will.
Asceticism
Asceticism is a deliberate restriction of oneself in various resources in order to develop personal qualities, the most important of which is the will. The main enemy of man is his own body, so you need to be able to forbid yourself and limit yourself. A man should regularly carry out austerities in relation to himself. This will enhance his self-confidence and strengthen psychological immunity. Oleg Torsunov said: "A man must swim in cold water, sleep on a hard surface and wake up early, otherwise he loses himself." Of course, as in everything, it is worth knowing the measure.
A simple example of asceticism is Christian fasting. There is no scientific evidence regarding the benefits of fasting for the body, and if there is, it is very mixed. Fasting teaches a person to overcome himself and fight with his personal body. Therefore, the main benefit of fasting is psychological. This is a good practice even for those who have freed themselves from religious prejudice.
Health
In a healthy body healthy mind. This phrase can be interpreted in two equally true variants. Firstly, when a person physically feels well, his mood is all right, because the main irritant that can inhibit a person is his own inferiority. Secondly, physical health in many respects depends on psychological health, therefore, the one who has everything in order with thoughts and guidelines will not get sick.
This great phrase confirms that health should consist of two components. Those who are interested in the question of how to be a healthy man should work both on physical and psychological health. Approaching physical health needs to be meaningful and competent. The psychological health of men is a complex concept. It includes all the points that we are considering today. A man with a beard and a pile of muscles can be more cowardly than a schoolboy. So the extremes are inappropriate here.
Job
From time immemorial, man was a getter. To bring wealth to the family is the main male destiny. Work for men is crucial at the psychological level. It gives a man a sense of fullness, allows you to reach your potential, identify key skills and so on. Every man must work and provide for his family. He needs to get pleasure and inspiration from it. Which job to choose is everyone’s business. A real man will always find a way to earn money based on his skills. Anyone who does not know what to do should at least do something and, having lost with one option, try a new one.
A man for a long period of his life is in search of himself. How long this period will be depends on determination and other personal qualities.
Wednesday
To become a man, you need to communicate with men. The environment greatly affects our development. The boy should know what men are talking about, what they are striving for and how they look at life. The main thing is that those around him are worth something. The easiest way to immerse yourself in the right environment is to sign up for the sports section, where the main category is men.
Love
It's time to talk about one of the most important factors affecting a man’s life. Finding a partner in life is the main task of every man. Indeed, without a girl, a man cannot feel the meaning of life and understand what his role is in this world.
In order for a man to be healthy and wise, he must remain faithful to one girl from the moment he felt love for her, and until death. One who distributes his energy to different girls can never be happy. This one will never learn to truly understand and feel women. A real man respects himself and his choice. He is faithful to his wife and to himself. And most importantly - he knows how to love so that he does not want to betray. All the rest cannot be called men a priori. Unfortunately, in modern realities it is difficult for many to realize this.
Being faithful is far from all that is required of the stronger sex in a relationship. A real man must respect his companion, understand and support her, be a real support for her, fulfill his obligations and try to make life easier for his beloved. And only then will he feel full, healthy and worthy of the word “man”.
