Family relationships - a difficult thing, if not even a difficult one. This was the case at all times, and now practically nothing has changed. New relatives are usually greeted with caution and alertness. Sometimes everything is settled, but this, unfortunately, is far from always the case. Particular conflicts occur between women, namely: daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, as well as daughter-in-law and sister-in-law.
Concept designation
If such words as “daughter-in-law” and “mother-in-law” are known to almost every person, then the term “sister-in-law” may become new for many, and often in a conversation you may hear a perplexed question: “sister-in-law - who is this?” Even by ear it is already felt that this degree of kinship will be oh what a difficult one. That's exactly right, the sister-in-law is the husband's sister, who most often does not treat the new member of the family too well.
Where did the word come from
Many will agree that the word itself is not too pleasant for hearing. The first associations with ash arise, sometimes you can see “evil” in this term. Everything is just that. To understand the sister-in-law - who it is, it’s worth lifting the veil of history. It has long been customary that a husband should bring his wife to his house. According to a long tradition, the husband’s sister was on the verge of showering the girl with ash, letting her know that she would not have to walk in the new family. The first thing a woman does in a new house is to clean the place where the new relative has littered. Further, the term itself was somewhat transformed, and one can often hear its other transcription, which answers the question “sister-in-law - who is this” with the saying “sister-in-law is a snake’s head”. Those. rather harmful relative. By the way, the men of the family, including the father-in-law and the husband-in-law, most often treat the new relative more favorably.
What to do?
The question arises of how it is possible and possible to avoid conflicts with new relatives. Unfortunately, no one can give a clear guide to action, it all depends on the people and the way they communicate. One thing is clear: you can never adapt to someone else's life and try to please all members of the family. And if everything turns out to be too hard, you can always rent a separate housing, now no one condemns such actions. But first, you should definitely try all the methods of building relationships. And if nothing helps categorically, only then it is worth going to an open conflict and trying to put everything in its place.
Holidays
Having understood the terms and found out, the sister-in-law is who it is, it is worth thinking about how you can even communicate in conflict situations, because you still have to spend holidays together. Particular attention should be paid to words and a gift, if you want to congratulate the sister-in-law. It is good to present to the husband’s sister what she really wants, but she does not succeed in acquiring the desired for any reason. So, having got this little thing, the sister-in-law can soften somewhat and begin to look differently at the new family member. It is also worth knowing what a relative loves or collecting, and choose a gift with this in mind. A great gift certificate, for example, in the spa. Such a present can also soften the often abrupt temper of the sister-in-law. And, of course, flowers, because all women love them and will always be happy with such a present.
