A young spouse joining her husband’s family after the wedding receives a new status in relation to his relatives. From the bride she turns into a daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law.
"Daughter-in-law - who is she?" - young people may ask in our modern age, when family ties no longer play such a large role as before. Although this is a term of kinship is still quite close. This is the name of the son-in-law's wife and mother-in-law.
Daughter-in-law or daughter-in-law: how to?
Explaining the existence of these two terms, some sources say: the daughter-in-law (“unknown”, “unknown”), the young wife remains for her husband’s parents until she gives birth to a child, then she becomes a daughter-in-law. But in Ushakov’s dictionary, the term “daughter-in-law” is used to refer to the relationship between the mother and wife of the son, the brother’s wife is also called his brother and sister. But for the father-in-law, the wife of the son immediately becomes a daughter-in-law.
Daughter-in-law: who is she?
What does the term “daughter-in-law” mean? Different sources also interpret its meaning in different ways.
So, in antiquity it was believed that the birth of a child finally “tied” his wife to the husband’s family, she was no longer such a “stranger” and “unknown”, but became almost as dear as her son, “son”.
According to another version, the word "daughter-in-law" comes from the word "demolish." Arriving in the husband’s family, the wife was forced to endure all kinds of reproaches from her husband’s relatives and even suffer beatings; she was the most dependent person in the house.
Relationship: daughter-in-law and mother-in-law
Today, the daughter-in-law, of course, is not as disenfranchised as it was before. And in most cases, today, young spouses tend to live separately from their parents. Nevertheless, the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law (daughter-in-law) very often leaves much to be desired. The main reason is jealousy. Mom is afraid in advance that her son will not love her as before, she will cease to be necessary for him. And to my mother it seems: daughter-in-law - who is she at all, how can she take care of her son like she, mother?
In order not to aggravate relations in the family, young spouses need to take care that their mother does not feel left out. The daughter-in-law should let her know that she does not seek to take the place of her mother in her husband’s heart, but, on the contrary, understands well that this is the most dear woman in her husband’s life.
Father-in-law and daughter-in-law: everything is easier here
It is very rare that disagreements between the father-in-law and the daughter-in-law bring troubles in the relations between young spouses and other relatives. Unless people noticed unpleasant cases of intimacy between them. In villages, all life was always in sight, it was almost impossible to conceal something. The father-in-law, noticed in such obscenity, received the stigma of a daughter-in-law or an accomplice, thereby expressing a general condemnation of the violator of the sanctity of family ties.
When is the daughter-in-law dreaming
This means that in your personal life, changes await you. Soon you will meet a person with whom you will experience many happy moments, he will give your life a new meaning.
Parable
It happened in China. In antiquity, one girl who, after the wedding, began to live in her husband’s house, could no longer endure the reproaches of her mother-in-law. She went to her father's friend, who was selling herbs, and told him:
“I am no longer able to live with my mother-in-law.” She will soon drive me crazy. Help me please. I will pay.
“What can I do?” - the herbalist was surprised.
- Sell me the poison. Having got rid of my mother-in-law, I will get rid of all misfortunes, ”the young woman answered.
On reflection, the herbalist said:
“Of course I will help you.” But listen to me carefully. Firstly, it’s impossible to poison a mother-in-law right away, because people will guess about everything. The herbs that I will give you will kill your mother-in-law gradually, and no one will understand that she was poisoned. Secondly, to avoid suspicion, you must learn to respect the mother in law, love her, listen carefully and be patient. When she dies, no one will suspect you.
The daughter-in-law agreed to all the suggestions; she gradually added herbs to her mother-in-law's food. She also learned to listen to the advice of the mother-in-law, not only not to be offended by her husband's mother, but also to respect her. When the mother-in-law saw the daughter-in-law's good attitude towards her, she fell in love with the girl. Soon, the relationship between them became the same as between the mother and daughter.
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when the girl came to the herbalist with the words:
“For God's sake, save my mother in law.” I do not want to kill her. I love her.
The herbalist replied:
- Do not worry so much, I did not give you poison, but ordinary spices. The poison was only in your head, but you successfully got rid of it yourself.
So daughter-in-law - who is she? We answer: with a good relationship - a daughter for the husband’s parents.
